Beat the fear of starting something new
Picture by Megan Winstone - @meganwinstonephoto
So it’s taken me precisely 123252436342 years to actually set up this blog because, for anyone who knows me, knows that I am in fact a MASSIVE ditherer. I just love to dither. Well, I don’t particularly love it but I am quite the expert. Then I thought, heckin’ sleebs (anyone who dogspots will understand this reference). I’m just going to do it, and you know what? It feels good.
Right okay, so change is weird. In fact, sometimes it can categorically suck. Especially the transition from teenager to adult, now that was just THE WORST. Who even needs bills and responsibilities anyway? Yuck. I for one have never been a huge fan of change. We’ve never been friends. It’s how I became the maestro of procrastination.
One thing I’ve learned recently is that embracing change and breaking down thinking patterns is not only satisfying, but good for the soul. Do you know what kind of change will always and unequivocally be harmful and unnecessary though? Buffy and Angel not being a couple. I’m pretty sure that unsettled me more than dominos getting my order wrong. BIG deal by the way… Who needs that kind of negativity in their lives? Not I for sure. But new jobs, new home, making new friends – these are all the kind of changes that bring positivity and good vibes into our stressful, hectic lives. The answer? Embrace them!
Change is present throughout every chapter of our lives. Each time we are faced with a new opportunity, there is some force of inner resistance, whether in our conscious or subconscious. I know I’m guilty of this. I’ve been wanting to set up a blog for months, but each time I’ve gotten close I’ve made up a meaningless excuse not to start. I’m not going to lie, some of my excuses have been pretty crap but it wasn’t until recently that I realised I was scared. Scared because I’m worried that I’ll fail and that it won’t turn out as I expect it to; worried that I won’t be able to articulate myself in the right way and that people won’t feel like they can relate to me; worried that I don’t actually have anything worth saying. I realise that this is all a bit self-indulgent and I made a promise to myself that I would try hard to be as impartial as I could, but I feel that overcoming this fear is important and if I can help someone in a small way, it would mean a lot to me. A little self-indulgence IS the key to happiness, or so I’ve heard… Or was it pizza? Definitely pizza.
What was I saying? Feel the fear and do it anyway. Turn that fear into empowerment. Tell yourself that you WILL do it and surely enough, you will. Do not allow the fear to control you, or you’ll be consumed by it. Trust me, I know. If it’s that new hobby/job/ you want to start but you’ve been too scared to even approach the topic. JUST DO IT. Write a goals list and make tiny doable steps to achieving it. You’ll feel so satisfied and accomplished when you do. I can’t stress any more about how important doing things purely for yourself is. Your happiness depends on it.
I feel like I’m not really qualified or equipped to be giving people advice but heck it, if I can help someone a tiny smidgen, then I’ll know that this is what I should be doing! Just call me Fairy Godmother Emuly (Queen Emu).
That’s all for now my darlings. Remember, every time you get scared: CHOOSE HAPPINESS.